WYR? — Privacy Policy
Effective date: October 5, 2026
WYR? is a private "Would You Rather" game for couples, operated by Mayer Sancivieri ("we," "us"). This policy explains, in plain English, what data the app touches, where it goes, how long it stays, and what you can do about it.
The short version: WYR? is built to be private. Your reels are yours — and your partner's, once you pair. If you play a Double Date with another couple, that one reel also belongs to them. There's no public feed. We show no ads, use no advertising trackers, and never sell your data.
1. What we collect
Account info. When you sign up (with Apple, Google, or an SMS code), our sign-in provider Clerk collects your name and either your email address or your phone number — whichever your sign-in method provides. You also pick a display name your partner sees. If you play a Double Date, the other couple sees it too.
Your duo. You can play on your own, or pair with another person. Pairing creates a link between your account and theirs. Most of your data in WYR? — rounds, reels, streak, subscription — is then shared at the couple ("duo") level, which means your partner can see it too. That's the product.
Double Dates. A Double Date is a live round between two couples on four phones. When you start or join one, the other couple sees your display name and your live camera and microphone for the length of the round, and both couples get the recorded reel. The other couple never sees the rest of your profile. Joining a Double Date means agreeing to be recorded for that reel — the app says so before recording starts. Each couple gets its own copy, and each couple can delete its own copy; deleting yours does not delete the other couple's. You can report or block anyone in the call from their video tile, and you can block a couple later from your plans or your list of couples you've played with. A block during a round ends it and deletes that round's reel for both couples; a block at any time stops either couple inviting the other again. A block after a round has finished does not remove reels already made. If you report someone, we keep the report (who reported whom, when, and the reason you give) so we can review it. To let you invite a couple again in one tap, we remember which couples you have finished a Double Date with, and if you plan one for later we store the planned time so we can send the reminders. Double Dates are for adults only: everyone confirms they are 18 or older before their first one.
Video and audio during rounds. Some modes are played live on two phones (four in a Double Date). In those, your camera and microphone streams are processed to run the video call between the devices in the round, and the round is recorded server-side into your reel. Other modes are played on a single device and are recorded entirely on that phone — that footage never leaves it unless you share it. In every case, camera and mic are only active during a round, never in the background. The app tells you which kind of mode you're starting before it begins.
Gameplay data. Your question picks, round history, daily streak, streak freezes, question packs you install or write, and reel favorites.
Notifications. If you turn on notifications, we store a device token from Apple so we can send them (for example, when your partner starts a round), along with your notification preferences. You can turn any of these off in the app, or all of them in iOS Settings — turning them off stops the sending.
Referrals. If you share your referral code or use someone else's, we record which account referred which, and any free Pro months earned. This creates a link between your account and the other person's; neither of you is shown the other's identity through it.
AI pack themes. If you generate an AI question pack, the theme you type (e.g. "camping trip debates") is sent to the AI service to write the questions. Only the theme text goes — no other personal data.
Purchases. If you subscribe to WYR? Pro, Apple processes the payment. We never see your card or billing details — only your subscription status, which we store for your duo so both partners get Pro.
App analytics. To see where the app breaks or confuses people — a video call that won't connect, or a setup step people give up on — the app sends usage events to PostHog, our analytics provider, which stores them in the US. An event records what happened, such as "round started", "call connected" or "trial started", with coarse details like the game mode, the app version and the language. It also includes your answers to the setup questions (where you are as a couple, what you want from the app, how you heard about us). Events are tied to a random analytics ID we create for your account (before you sign in, to a random ID for the install), so we can see both partners' steps in the same couple. They never include your name, email, phone number, your partner's name, your videos or audio, the game's questions, your answers in the game, or anything you type. PostHog discards your IP address, we don't send your location or the advertising identifier, and nothing is used for advertising or shared for tracking.
What we do NOT collect: your location, your contacts, your photo library (saving a reel is add-only — we can't read your photos), browsing history, health data, financial details, or any advertising/tracking data.
2. Who processes your data (our providers)
We use a small set of service providers, each for one job:
| Provider | What it does | What it touches |
|---|---|---|
| Clerk | Sign-in and accounts | Name, email or phone number, sign-in identity |
| Supabase | Our database (Postgres, hosted in the US) | Account/duo records, gameplay data, reel metadata |
| LiveKit | The live video call between the phones in a round (two, or four in a Double Date) | Video/audio streams, processed transiently for the call and for the server-side reel recording |
| Cloudflare | Temporary storage of finished live-mode reels (R2) and the reel-rendering service | The finished reel file, until your devices download it |
| Anthropic (Claude) | Generates AI question packs | The theme text you type — nothing else |
| PostHog | Product analytics (US) | App usage events tied to a random analytics ID — never your name, contact details, videos, audio or answers |
| Apple | Payments for WYR? Pro | Handled entirely by Apple under Apple's terms |
| Apple Push Notification service | Delivers notifications to your phone | A device token, and the text of the notification |
We don't share your data with anyone else, and no provider is permitted to use your data for its own advertising. We never sell your data.
3. How long things stay (retention)
Reels are device-home, not cloud-home. A live-mode reel is stored temporarily in cloud storage so both of your phones can download it. A Double Date reel is one video that both couples' phones download; its cloud copy is kept until neither couple still needs it. On the free tier, once both partners have downloaded a reel, its cloud copy is scheduled for deletion (about 24 hours later) and removed in periodic sweeps — your phones hold the memories. WYR? Pro keeps the cloud copy available for longer, so a reel can still be re-downloaded to a new or reset phone; it is removed when the reel is deleted or the subscription's retention window passes. Single-device reels never leave the phone at all. (If you share a reel, you're sharing your device's copy through the iOS share sheet — that's your call.)
Live call streams exist only for the duration of the round: they're processed transiently to run the call and produce the recording, not retained as separate streams.
Account and gameplay data stay as long as your account does.
Analytics events are kept by PostHog for up to one year.
4. Deleting your account
You can delete your account in the app (no email required, though we'll always help at the address below). Deletion:
- removes your profile and your sign-in identity;
- deletes your account's analytics ID, so analytics events can no longer be connected to you;
- unpairs your duo;
- removes your referral records and any free Pro months you had earned but not used — these cannot be restored, so spend them first if you care about them;
- your partner keeps their own copies of your shared reels. The reels were theirs too — memories survive a deleted account. If you also want specific shared reels gone, delete them in the app before deleting your account (deleting a reel for the duo removes it for both of you), or talk to your partner. For a Double Date, the other couple keeps its own copy of that reel.
5. Your rights
You can ask us at any time to:
- Access — get a copy of the data we hold about you;
- Delete — remove your account and data (or just use in-app deletion);
- Correct — fix inaccurate account info.
Email us at support@thewyrapp.com and we'll respond as quickly as we can. Depending on where you live, local law may give you additional rights; we'll honor valid requests regardless of geography where we reasonably can.
6. Children
WYR? is not directed at children under 13, and we do not knowingly collect personal data from anyone under 13. Our Terms of Service require users to be at least 13 years old. If we learn that we have collected personal data from a child under 13, we will delete it — if you believe that has happened, contact us at the address below and we'll act on it.
7. Security
Data in our database is protected by per-account access rules (each duo can only reach its own data), secrets are kept server-side rather than in the app, and reels are only ever accessible to the people who played in them: the two members of your duo, and for a Double Date, the other couple. No system is perfectly secure, but private-by-design choices (no feed, transient cloud storage, on-device reels) mean there's simply less of your data sitting on servers to begin with.
8. Changes to this policy
If we change this policy in a meaningful way, we'll update the effective date above and, where appropriate, tell you in the app. Continued use after a change means the updated policy applies.
9. Contact
Questions about privacy: support@thewyrapp.com
Mayer Sancivieri · https://thewyrapp.com